Family & Friends Must Intervene!
- Bloodshot (glazy red) eyes
- Enlarged or smaller sized pupils than usual
- Deterioration in physical appearance (uneven skin tone, decreased grooming, severe weight gain, or weight loss)
- Sudden change in sleep pattern or pretends to be sick
- Hyped up behavior and saying things that make no sense
- Bad hygiene (bad breathe, clothes smell, teeth begin to yellow, eyes appear droopy)
- Suddenly prefers to spend a majority of their time alone
- Neglects responsibilities
- Disappears and gives no explanation
- On-going money troubles (constantly complains of a lack of funds)
- Slow motor skills, delayed reactions, and slurred speech
- Sudden need for money and experiences unexplained financial issues
- Behaviors seem to be shady, secretive, or suspicious
- Change is circle of friends, hobbies, interests, and preferred places to hang out
- Lack of motivation or drive to work or study
- Unusual anxiety and fear
- Increased anger, mood swings, apathy, lethargy and a change in attitude
- Personality changes
- Fighting, stealing, or illegal activity
When I was in my own addiction, for many years prior to March of 2007, no one said anything until AFTER I was detoxed. Some didn’t know I was drugging, while others just watched and said nothing. It’s amazing who really cares and who doesn’t. For those who just don’t know, please carefully note the above signs and make a move because time is running out quickly.
Two things are certain:
1) Unless your loved one has completely hit a dangerous rock bottom that shakes them to the core of their soul, your addicted loved one will NOT want to end their addiction on their own; they simply can’t. Your loved one may not be ready for recovery at all yet. He or she may require some preparations to enter detox first. You will first need to intervene at this critical time. When do you intervene? Right now! Drug addicts are overtaken by their addiction and their addiction is their comfort zone – as uncomfortable as that may be for them. They need to be rescued before they experience an accidental overdose from which they may not survive. If they don’t go to detox, most will die prematurely from accidental overdose. No matter what he/she tells you, don’t believe them; they won’t go on their own.
Once your loved one returns from detox (8 to 14 days), it is the most vulnerable time for them. It is a time when they can easily return to drugs or alcohol. They MUST enter recovery. Here’s where we come in. If they are against recovery, you need to have the tools in your toolbox on how to steer them into attending recovery. It takes up to one year to fully recover. The brain goes through many changes during that year and your loved one needs help, guidance, education and support. We’re here to do that for them; however, it’s your job to convince the reluctant newly detoxed person to enter recovery because they still are not ready or able to make proper decisions. We can coach you through this critical time.
2) While it’s not a disease, when addiction takes hold, it posesses one’s soul and refuses to let go. It’s as though your loved one has been put in a prison cell with unbendable bars and a lock to which no one has the key. It’s bondage – plain and simple. As I have always said, addiction is a spiritual problem that demands a spiritual solution. The only way out is by rescue. You are dealing with someone who is NOT the person you once knew before addiction hit. This is a different person who lives to use and nothing much else matters. You can’t deal with logic or rationality. You need to be tough and strong. You need to pray, and pray hard. You especially need to take action!