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I Believe! Do You?

Faith is a big deal with the Lord.  With God and faith, the Bible says all things are possible.  The Bible says that we need to come to Him with a child’s faith.  You know how kids will believe anything you tell them?  We have to be the same.  It’s blind faith – the type of faith reserved only for God.

Without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He Is, and that He Is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.

Hebrews 11:6

I love to recall the day, on March 22, 2007, when I was on a gurney in the ER, waiting to be transferred to another hospital for emergency intervention in the cardiac care unit and then, if I were to survive, to be detoxed.  I was experiencing a massive accidental overdose and not expected to survive.  My liver was failing… my kidneys were almost completely shut down… and my heart was beating very irregularly as it pounded in my chest.  My potassium level bottomed out completely so that my heartbeats couldn’t be supported.  I never felt sicker; I don’t think anyone could feel worse than I did back on that day. With all this going on, for a few hours I felt really scared, alone and hopeless.  I figured I would just wait it out until my death.  Then, it happened!  It was a pivotal moment!. I heard a newborn baby crying as he or she was entering this world for the very first time.  This new little life was being born just a few feet away from me.  Usually, when a life comes in, another one goes out; however, this time it wasn’t going to be me who was going out.  Jesus let me know, at that very moment, that I would defy all odds… that He would allow me to live through all of this… that my miracle was on it’s way.  So, instead of waiting to die, I waited to live.  This was the same Jesus who I betrayed by my drug addiction.  His love for me (and all of you) is so great… so unconditional… so righteous… so pure… that He never gives up on us!  Who do you know like that?  As long as you still have love in your heart for Him, and the desire to do your life His way, He won’t ever leave you.

The rest of my story is found in the first several posts on this blog, so I won’t repeat it.  My point is that whether it’s the total healing of addiction, or anything else, God will do it – according to your faith.  In His hometown of Nazareth, He could do not healing because no one would believe that He was the Messiah.  They saw Him only as Joseph’s Son, so they figured there was no way the He was the Christ!  Once Jesus traveled around to neighboring towns, it became a completely different story; EVERYONE was healed, delivered from demonic possession (mental illnesses) and many were even raised from the dead.  Since the Bible says, “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever”, do you not know that He will heal you?

My ongoing impossible dream is to have an IV infusion of faith… one that I can insert in a vein and run it through so that I can give them the faith to believe.  YOU have to find a way to receive and keep your own faith.  It comes with getting the Word of God into your heart and mind by reading your Bible daily and fellowshipping with true born again believers. Above that, PRAISE HIM!  “He inhabits the praises of His people”.

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f you need a faith infusion in your addiction recovery, CLICK HERE.  Jesus doesn’t make you count days, He makes your days count!  He’ll never make you do (12) steps, you only need to follow in His steps.  He causes recovery to end in you being fully recovered without a lifetime of struggle.

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What Can You Say to the Newly Recovered Former Substance Abuser?

Words hold power – to do either good or evil.  When you deliver bad words, life takes a turn for the worse.  When you speak good words, beautiful life changing events happen.  The recovered former substance abuser is extra sensitive during their first year, when the brain is re-setting itself to normal. When you love that person, you need to provide encouragement, forgiveness and a source of hope for them.  No, you’re not responsible for winning or losing in their recovery; however, you ARE responsible for respecting their humanity and showing them that you forgive them.  They need to feel your unconditional love, without placating them or giving them false hopes.  It’s a balance of things that need to work together to help them in a therapeutic and humane way.  We teach that at Victory Retreat Montana online.

The people the recovered former substance abuser comes home to are an integral part in that person’s completed recovery. Through your words to them, along with their observation of your lifestyle that back those words, they learn trust, love, compassion, balance, life skills and hope.  You need to know what ingredients to add that will make the recovery meal super delicious.  In a way it’s like a child learning what they live.  The vulnerable newly recovered former substance abuser is also like a child who need to re-learn life, just as a child does.

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For you newly recovered love one, NEVER…

  • Never call them an ‘addict’; that was then and not now; they are humans like anyone else
  • Never become hostile; hostility breeds rage and resentment
  • Never speak to them in the negative, such as saying things like, ‘don’t’, ‘you’re not’, ‘never’, ‘I prohibit you from’, ‘you can’t’, etc.  All of those negative words cause behaviors that are opposite to what you are demanding.  When you tell someone, ‘don’t, they ‘do’.
  • Never speak words that will dredge up their past. The past is over and done.  No one should ever be defined by their past.
  • Never correct in a negative manner.
  • Never use words of condemnation.
  • Never react in anger.
  • Never cause them to feel invisible; that’s abusive.

For your newly recovered loved one, ALWAYS…

  • Always speak truth in words and in deeds… and follow through with your promises.
  • Always pray for and with your loved one at least once daily and each time a crisis comes up.
  • Always be a source of encouragement. There is always something to respond with encouragement about.
  • Always be there to listen – without judgement.
  • Show unconditional love always.
  • Find something to compliment about your loved one.
  • Deliver words that bring change.
  • Offer words, on a daily basis (or more), that tells them how much they matter.
  • Ask them if they would like to talk about their plans and encourage them.
  • Tell them, in word and in deed, that you are proud of them.

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue.”
Proverbs 18:21

 

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Is Your Loved One Coming Home to His or Her Past, or Will it be their Present and Future?

One of the reasons why we work with families, is because addiction is a family problem that has a family solution.  Without knowing it, family members can destroy someone’s recovery process by refusing to see them as a new person.  Typically, spouses, children, parents and others close to the recovering person, will constantly make mention of what that person once was and the bad things they did – not acknowledging their courage and strength during their brave fight to be delivered from the ugly, dark and demonic claws of addiction.

When people graduate from Victory Retreat Montana’s virtual recovery program, the family is well coached on how to welcome their loved one back into their lives and their homes.  The graduate is also prepared to overcome any obstacles that may present themselves upon their return home.  Most rehabs don’t do this.  They send the graduate of their program back into their former life, with all the problems they left there.  No one knows how to communicate, much less provide the necessary encouragement and recovery tools to fuel their loved one in a positive direction.

Are you a new graduate?  Need faith based Recovery?  Looking for answers? Are you the family of a loved one who suffered in an addiction and don’t know what to do or where to turn?  Please contact us below, or go to Victory Retreat Montana and learn more of what we do and how we can help.

 

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Does Forgiving Always Lead to Forgetting?

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Guilt and shame cause addiction.  They also walk together in causing depression and despair.  Forgiving and forgetting – with the full understanding of what both words truly mean –  have everything to do with this.  Let’s look at what our Master, Jesus, has to say about this when Peter asked this question, in Matthew 18:21-22 …….

Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?  Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.

What do we read from His Words and what do we read between the lines?  Clearly, Jesus says that we need to keep forgiving; however, as many times as He tells us to forgive, those times come to an end.  Simple math tells us that the number of times we need to forgive someone comes to 490. So, is that a literal amount of times that we keep a note of in our little forgiveness notebook, or, does it mean to keep forgiving without counting the number of times we forgive?  After all, constantly writing this down can be annoying and with probably errors.  I’d love to hear your thoughts on this; however, my personal opinion is that we just keep forgiving.  Jesus also says in Matthew 6:15 …….

But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

In this passage, there is no number set on how many times we must forgive.  We always need to do exhaustive research by connecting other Scriptures in order to get the true meaning of any verses or passages.  My personal conclusion is that we must always  forgive in order to be forgiven. So, does forgetting always follow forgiving?

My next question is, what about forgetting the things that were done against us?  Now, that’s a horse of another color!  Jesus also says , in Matthew 7:6 …….

Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.

Scripture is deeply multi-layered and usually has many applications.  One of the meanings of the above Scripture warns us that  there is a certain point in time that we must protect ourselves from ongoing hurt and abuse.  When it’s been too much, we shut down.  When we shut down, we are rendered useless to God, ourselves and others.  We don’t want to go to that dark place.  That’s the darkness when we become vulnerable to doing and thinking dark things.

No longer casting our pearls before swine is a point in time when we come to the harsh realization that we’ve been beaten each and every time we trust this person. So, we need to stop thinking that this time it will be different.  We can predict future behavior by past behavior unless there is a dramatic event that radically changes someone.  We must continue to hold on to forgiveness, as forgiveness is something that exists between our Heavenly Father and us.  It sets us free.  Forgetting, however, may be a different thing.  The ability to remember can actually be a protective shield for us. There comes a point in time, however, when we feel as though we are so badly bruised that we just cannot take another blow. That is the point, in my humble opinion, when we no longer cast our pearls before that swine (person).  It stops so that we can recover and re-fuel.  It becomes a time of healing… retrospection… introspection… and talking with the Lord. We must, however, make certain that this person has truly harmed us and it’s not our biased perception.  We cannot disconnect from someone just because we don’t like a few things they do, or the color of their hair, or because we are thin skinned and take something they say or do as offensive.  We need to make certain the the harm they keep doing to to us is truly ungodly and may even border on criminal.  We must also figure into this equation whether this person is a spouse… a child… a parent… or someone similar.  For those people in our lives, we need to seek Godly counsel in order to move forward together or separately.  A husband or wife who are both in Christ is yet another scenario.  God HATES divorce, so we must work especially hard to ‘fix’ a relationship, and each person independently, involved in that marriage so that our relationship here mirrors our marriage to Jesus in eternity.

Bringing it home

As Christians, we are held to a higher level of accountability – to God, to friends, to family, to co-workers, and even to strangers.  We must seek God in all areas of forgiveness and being able to forget.  There is no one answer that covers all situations.  Here, I have presented some ideas and scenarios; however, you need to dig deeply for each and every situation before you consider anyone to be ‘swine’.  Yes, life as a believer can, at times, be even more complicated that life as a non-believer.  We are accountable to God and must take that seriously.

Never live your life so that you have regrets.


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Have You Asked Yourself, “Who Am I”?

Most of what I have written, to date, has been about my personal exodus out of addiction.  I’m as far from being a narcissist as anyone could be; however,  I just wanted you to know that complete healing is possible.  I am asking you to stand on the Word of God with me that says, “with God, ALL things are possible”. From today, and going forward, my posts will be directed to YOU and trying to help you discover who you are!  When Jesus spared my life after my near death, I promised Him that I would show others the same Holy Road that He took me on.  I care about your freedom and I want to lead you to the place where I am – a place where you will never have to fear addiction ever again; it’s the way Jesus taught me.  Once you arrive, you’ll just KNOW that getting free from addiction will never be a decision that you will make again.  You will never be hostage to anything again.

Addiction freedom is a destination to which I can give you the directions. I cannot put you there unless you follow them yourself. You’re going to have to walk there – barefoot.  Sometimes you even have to pull glass and rocks out of the bottom of your. BUT… the joy upon arrival is unspeakably spectacular and everlasting.  You’ll never have to walk that road again!

Now, back to the question.  Have you ever asked yourself, who am I?  Maybe you did and maybe you didn’t; but, if you have, have you been able to truthfully and knowingly answer that question?  Perhaps you’re struggling with it.  One of the common threads that exist within people enslaved by addiction is that they don’t know who they are and why they’re here, which leads them into feeling useless and hopeless.  Despair is the #1 cause of addiction. 

We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed; Always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body.
2 Corinthians 4:8-10

You see, your Heavenly Father created you with a purpose for which He chose only you to accomplish during your time here on earth. Never choose to be a slave of your past!  Do not let it own you.  The Lord knows you’ve been through an abusive childhood… that you’ve been bullied… that you’ave been abuses by your spouse… that you’ve suffered a horrific life in the foster care system… that you’ve been molested and raped by someone you trusted… that you’ve had to grow up in a broken home… that you’ve suffered the unthinkable  separation from someone who meant everything to you – through their death… that you’ve been through a teen pregnancy… that you’ve been somehow involved in sex slavery… that you’ve been into witchcraft… that you have involved yourself in criminal activities… that you’ve been in prison… that you have been through the torture of the death of your child… that you have had an abortion, or taken part in abortion procedures… that your mind keeps focusing on your nightmarish regrets… and other things that this broken world may have done to you.  I’m here to tell you that all of these nightmares have contributed to who you are, your endurance, and the strength you have.  After all, you’re alive and reading this, aren’t you?  For the past 11 years, I have been able to use the nightmares I’ve been through to mentor, coach and counsel others in the recovery ministry God gave me.  In many things, I can say I’ve been there, done that, and I’m still here and better than ever!

Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you:

But rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ’s sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy.

1 Peter 4:12,13

So, who are you? If you don’t know, ask yourself, who do I want to be?  That is a very transforming moment.  “I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me.”  Those thoughts of who you want to be, come from the Lord.  He will feed your purpose into your  spirit and the transformation will begin.  Don’t know how to take it from there?  Specialized coaching can help.  Sound spooky or crazy?  Well, the Bible is a supernatural book; it’s ALIVE!

For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory; While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.

2 Corinthians 4:17,18

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One of my favorite songs’ lyrics, by Casting Crowns, is below.  Enjoy!

                     Who Am I
Who am I, that the lord of all the earth
Would care to know my name
Would care to feel my hurt?
Who am I, that the bright and morning star
Would choose to light the way
For my ever wandering heart?
Not because of who I am
But because of what you’ve done
Not because of what I’ve done
But because of who you are
I am a flower quickly fading
Here today and gone tomorrow
A wave tossed in the ocean
A vapor in the wind
Still you hear me when I’m calling
Lord, you catch me when I’m falling
And you’ve told me who I am
I am yours
Who am I, that the eyes that see my sin
Would look on me with love
And watch me rise again?
Who am I, that the voice that calmed the sea
Would call out through the rain
And calm the storm in me?
Not because of who I am
But because of what you’ve done
Not because of what I’ve done
But because of who you are
I am a flower quickly fading
Here today and gone tomorrow
A wave tossed in the ocean
A vapor in the wind
Still you hear me when I’m calling
Lord, you catch me when I’m falling
And you’ve told me who I am
I am yours
Not because of who I am
But because of what you’ve done
Not because of what I’ve done
But because of who you are
I am a flower quickly fading
Here today and gone tomorrow
A wave tossed in the ocean
A vapor in the wind
Still you hear me when I’m calling
Lord, you catch me when I’m falling
And you’ve told me who I am
I am yours
I am yours
I am yours
Whom shall I fear, whom shall I fear?
‘Cause I am yours
I am yours
Songwriters: John Mark Hall
(Who Am I lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Essential Music Publishing, Capitol Christian Music Group)

 

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Addicted?

Are you addicted? Does there seem to never be the right time to begin that amazing road to complete recovery? Do you realize your addiction is not a disease, so you cannot have relapses as you may have been told? Do you understand why addiction has never been proven to be a disease? Do you understand that brain changes during an addiction resolve to normal within one year of detox? Did you know that just about anything causes brain changes that come and go? Do you realize that addicted individuals are big business to doctors, psychiatrists and rehabs, so keeping you believing that you’ll always be recovering for the rest of your life, keeps a lot of greedy professionals ‘in the money’ and not necessarily ‘in the know’? Do you know that the Bible has ALL the answers about addiction and how you can experience complete healing? Did you know that the Bible is the true ‘Manual’ of how to live an extraordinary life? Want to know more? Have questions? Need answers? Please visit VictoryRetreatMontana.com where some really friendly people are waiting at the other end of your call, email or text. We work with extraordinary people, like yourself, all the time – by phone, video conferencing, text, encrypted chat, and email. We see lives transform all the time. It costs you nothing to have a free conversation with one of us, but your addiction can cost you everything. There IS a way out!

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Are You a Sheep or a Goat?

To permanently end addiction, one must choose to be a sheep – not a goat.  This means that obedience to the Lord Jesus has to be your #1 priority.  You need to live your faith.  God rewards faithfulness with healing and blessings.  The sheep follows the shepherd  and the goat rebels against him.  Be a sheep!

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And He shall set the sheep on His right hand, but the goats on the left.

Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand,
Come, ye blessed of My Father, i
nherit the kingdom prepared for you
from the foundation of the world:

For I was an hungred, and ye gave Me meat:
I was thirsty, and ye gave Me drink:
I was a stranger, and ye took Me in:

Naked, and ye clothed Me:
I was sick, and ye visited Me:
I was in prison, and ye came unto Me.

Then shall the righteous answer him, saying,
Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fed thee?
or thirsty, and gave thee drink?

When saw we thee a stranger,
and took thee in?
or naked, and clothed thee?

Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison,
and came unto thee?

And the King shall answer and say unto them,
Verily I say unto you,
Inasmuch as ye have done it unto
one of the least of these My brethren,
ye have done it unto Me.

Matthew 25: 33-40


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